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Be Confident When Talking To Men

Talking with new male friends can be intimidating if you’re not confident about what to say. Becoming comfortable with speaking to anyone, means feeling comfortable with yourself. Chat City Australia gives you a chance to practice your conversations, with the added bonus that it’s fun. When you are self-conscious, it can hinder your ability to come across naturally and it can reduce your ability to simply enjoy a conversation. There are a few things to bear in mind in order to feel confident when talking with guys.

The most useful technique and this is even more effective with men than it is with women, is to ask questions. Asking a person questions takes the pressure off you, and gives the other person an opportunity to share some information and insights about themselves. Choose things that will lead to more than just a short reply. Rather than posing a question that could be answered with “yes” or “no” or with another one-word reply, ask something that requires the other person to reply with an explanation.

So, for example, instead of saying “Do you travel?” say “Where is your favourite place in the world to visit?”  If he gives just the name of the place, press him about what he likes the most. You could go on to seek information from him relating to when he was last there, what the people were like and what the food was like. Men enjoy telling women about themselves when the woman appears interested.

Be sure to listen when he speaks. It is natural for most people to be only half-listening when someone else is speaking, while thinking of what to say when that person stops speaking. This is especially the case with new friends. However, it is important to relax and simply listen. You don’t need to have something to say immediately, when he stops speaking. You can take a moment to consider what you have just heard him say, before either commenting on it or coming up with another question. This will be much more appreciated by him.

Before you meet up with a new guy friend, think of a few things you can discuss. Perhaps his work, his passions and interests. Men love talking about things they feel passionate about. Sport for example. It is also a good idea to seek his opinion on Australian current events in the news, if that is something you are familiar with. Remember, listening to someone while allowing them to express themselves, is one of the most valuable gifts you can give. If you are truly interested in what he is saying, he will feel good talking to you, without really knowing exactly why.

Asking questions, showing interest and listening intently will take the pressure off you. There is then no need to worry about what to say or whether he will be interested in what you have to say. You don’t need to come up with things to talk about, so you will feel more comfortable and he will enjoy being given an opportunity to talk about his life.